Losing touch with a friend

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Post 1 by audioadict (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Thursday, 14-Feb-2008 7:22:50

Hi all,
I had a really close friend I met at a blindness training center. She went there for computer training. We've been friends since october of 2006. After we both left the training center, we were in close contact for a good while. One day back in august, she emailed me saying she was moving. A week later, I called her, and I got a recording saying the number was no longer in service. I even get that recording today when I call. I tried to send her an email several months ago, but the emails kept bouncing back! She hasn't called me, or emailed me since august. I don't like that since we were close. My friend never did tell me her new phone number, and new email address if any. This is a first, but I hate losing contact with someone, especially a good friend.

Post 2 by louisa (move over school!) on Thursday, 14-Feb-2008 13:01:30

Hello, that is not a nice thing to happen. I wonder why would someone do that? I hope for your sake, she will get back to you. If nothing happends then one can just try and move on. Yet I hope for your sake she will contact you. All the best and good luck.

Post 3 by audioadict (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Thursday, 14-Feb-2008 13:05:28

Thank you, and wish me the best of luck.

Post 4 by louisa (move over school!) on Thursday, 14-Feb-2008 13:17:12

It's a pleasure. No problem, I will, smiles

Post 5 by audioadict (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Thursday, 14-Feb-2008 13:21:09

Thanks.

Post 6 by margorp (I've got the gold prolific poster award, now is there a gold cup for me?) on Thursday, 14-Feb-2008 15:25:16

It seems to me you're better off without her. Friends don't drop off the face of the earth without at least a see ya.
Some friend.

Post 7 by audioadict (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Friday, 15-Feb-2008 1:11:42

Yeh, I think it's best to move on. As my mom says, friends can come and go.

Post 8 by Brooke (I just keep on posting!) on Saturday, 16-Feb-2008 12:19:06

I've lost touch with some good friends. Sometimes it isn't even intentional. Things just happen. But I'll agree that it does suck.

Post 9 by liverpoolfc (Newborn Zoner) on Sunday, 17-Feb-2008 16:59:27

hi everyone

Post 10 by happy (Generic Zoner) on Sunday, 02-Mar-2008 17:58:21

I can relate with you. I have been trying to locate some friends I met at a training center for the blind.It has been very frustrating for me. I'm keeping my figures cross that I will meet them again some day.

Post 11 by motifated (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Sunday, 02-Mar-2008 19:03:37

Believe it or not, one way I've actually located people is to just type a persons name into google. Of course, any other relevant information you can give might help like city or state. I typed in my name which is actually quite comon. When I put the word blind in the search string, I found out about a blues singer who was blind with my name.


Lou

Post 12 by audioadict (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Sunday, 02-Mar-2008 19:51:43

Thanks lou. I'll give that a try and see what I can find.

Post 13 by Reyami (I've broken five thousand! any more awards going?) on Monday, 03-Mar-2008 1:58:19

I'm trying to find a friend who moved back to New zealand almost eleven years ago. being nine years old at the time, she and i did not think to exchange any sort of contact information. I'm not getting very far with an internet search, but someone's assisting me with that.

Post 14 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Thursday, 06-Mar-2008 17:14:29

I do not like the idea of losing contacts. I still have all the contact information of all my friends even those people from the Philippines. I agree with the other poster. True, friends come and go. But there is an exception if the person considers you as a friend then she will try her best to communicate with you regardless of how far she moved. Friendship requires efforts from both sides. You hear this quote often when we talk about relationships, but it also applies to friendship. “Give and take.” I think if the person values your friendship and the time that both of you spent together even though it was only for a short while, she will find a way to reconnect with you.

Post 15 by audioadict (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Wednesday, 12-Mar-2008 3:45:03

Yes, that is true. The friend I have been talking about was very close. When we both were at the blindness training center, I'd go up to her dorm room and we'd have a long talk, and even after the training center, I still remember our long talks on the phone. I've lost contact with a few other people, but we weren't that close in the beginning.

Post 16 by Thunderstorm (HotIndian!) on Wednesday, 12-Mar-2008 7:54:09

Seriously, as per my opinion, parents, partner, real friends, friends and cibblings and this is the way I normally give importance, you see.

We can have many friends but only a few could be our real friends. so if we miss them, that could be really a hard thing to digest.

Post 17 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Wednesday, 12-Mar-2008 19:07:05

Like what i said earlier if the person values your friendship, she will find a way to hear from you or at least see how you are. Another thing, people change and yes, the last poster is right only a few people can be considered as your real friends. I'm sure your going to meet new people, so don't feel bad if you lost touch with your friend.
I hope you hear from her soon. Good luck with that.

Post 18 by Reyami (I've broken five thousand! any more awards going?) on Wednesday, 12-Mar-2008 20:28:51

How in the hell do I find a friend in New zealand, with whom I hav not conversed in almost eleven years? Her likes, dislikes, personality, or everything about her could have changed in such a long time. I doubt she would remember me ...

Post 19 by Juliet (move over school!) on Saturday, 15-Mar-2008 22:11:14

Join the club. I had that happen with a friend of mine went to FSDB with named Davina.
We used to e-mail each other years ago, and all of a sudden my e-mail's just started bouncing back, and I just never heard from her again, and nobody else I've talked to that I managed to keep in touch with from there seems to know where she lives anymore.
I'm actually trying to get in touch with several people I used to be friends with who went to school there, but since we all graduated, we seem to have all gone our seperate ways, and half the people I still talk to haven't heard from them since then.
Then you have those who change phone numbers so frequently it's hard to keep up with them.

Post 20 by audioadict (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Tuesday, 27-May-2008 9:59:16

I had a friend who happened to be a zoner. We were quite close. All of a sudden, I lost touch. I tried calling him, but no answer. He's never on messenger, skype, or the zone. According to his profile, he hasn't logged on since march something. Tried emailing him, but he hasn't emailed me back. For your infformation, he goes by Jake2000SC on the zone.

Post 21 by audioadict (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Thursday, 21-Aug-2008 7:20:31

I got some wonderful news from that friend I was talking about. It so happened that she went on a cruze, and later moved. She had my number in her braille and speak but it was in storage for quite some time.
About 2 weeks after she got settled in, she called me. I couldn't believe it! I was so happy!

Post 22 by cumbiambera2005 (i just keep on posting!) on Sunday, 24-Aug-2008 1:18:16

Yeah, I know how hard it can be to lose touch with someone. I lost touch with someone I used to be friends with back in high school. I have a number for her, but we haven't talked in so long it's incredible! But glad you found your friend, though. I've gone through that several times in my life, but I've always found that they either seem to somehow come back around, or maybe they just move on. And people do change, I think I have, some. So yes, friends come and go, you'll have old friends, and you'll meet new ones. I recently lost contact with my best friend, but I guess she wasn't really my best friend since she changed her number and didn't bother to give it to me. So yeah, they can come and go, but the true friends are the ones that stick with you till the end! And I've also found that different friends are around at different times, so I'm just very grateful for my friends! And for the good times I have had with them, whether we are still in contact or not.

Post 23 by fireworks77 (make sure you sparkle) on Monday, 25-Aug-2008 11:32:34

I had a really good friend at school, but when we went our separate ways to college we lost touch. a few years later I found out this was because she had married a strict Muslim man who was abusing her. I used to leave my new phone number with her parents every time I changed it, in the hope that one day her situation would change. About a month ago I got an e-mail from her through friendsreunited. It might have been 14 years since we last spoke but we haven't stopped talking since! She had finally found the currage to leave him, and now is planning to start university in September. Never give up hope on a true friend.